How many times in your life have you been in a situation where you noticed you were different from the people around you? Maybe it was your job, your ethnic or religious background, your political beliefs or the decisions you’ve made, or the friends you surround yourself with that were different from the people around you. Perhaps it was your choice to not follow the career path, the social circle, the cultural or religious expectations or the rites of passage (such as marriage and having children) that they told you you should. You were different, the one that didn’t fit into one of the readymade categories society uses to classify people.
Do any of the following statements resonate with you?
- I don’t fit in here. Is there something wrong with me?
- I shouldn’t rock the boat. I don’t want to stick out. What will people think?
- Everyone else likes this career, likes being married, likes having kids, likes their culture or religion. Why don’t I?
- Where are the people like me?
- I don’t fit in with the members of my own minority group.
- Sometimes I wish I was like everyone else.
- I’m tired of doing what “they” say I should do. I did everything I was supposed to and I’m not happy. Is this all there is? Is this what my life is going to be like for the next 30 years?
- I have this goal I want to accomplish, but I haven’t told anyone about it because people will think I’m weird.
This is where our work begins.
Your mind is your greatest asset. The thoughts you have can either free you or imprison you. The luxury is you get to decide which one. Coaching shows you different ways to examine your own role in your life and teaches you how to manage your mind instead of allowing it to manage you.
We can look at:
- How you define who you are and how to honor that
- How letting go of wanting to fit in increases your freedom and creates more opportunities to meet your people
- Why there is nothing wrong with you
- The side effects of living a half life and much more…
I work with people pioneering their own paths. Society doesn’t create their life plan. I work with women and men who are smart, inquisitive, independent thinkers. They are learning to take better care of themselves. Some are defining their lives on their own terms for the first time. Others are living lives they love and working towards their goals and dreams. Some are seeking peace or a life with more joy. They are all committed to following through and doing the work to create what they yearn for.
Here are some examples of topics I’ve worked on:
- Balancing allegiances to two cultures—the American culture in which you live and the culture of your heritage–such as immigrants, people with immigrant parents, first nation, minority cultures and more
- Choosing the career and work-life balance you want
- Examining beliefs about relationships, marriage and children
- The importance of personal time for mothers who experience guilt and place themselves last on their list of priorities
- Childhood abuse
- The vulnerability that accompanies really being who you are and living that fully where others see it
- Fears about failure and success
- Taking full responsibility for your life
- Understanding how our thoughts create the life we live